What's going on in the picture? Is Spider-Man a goner? Will he break loose from his chains? Will Harry unmask him? Tune in next week when... Gotcha! You thought I was gonna leave you hanging. And you're right. I am. I'm not telling you what's going on here. That's for you to find out. But...
Peter Parker is Spider-Man. Relax. That's not telling tales out of school. He does whatever a spider can. As with all of our heroes, both the fictitious and real ones, he's a person of many layers. He's conflicted. He wants to do good and save lives, but by doing so, he endangers the lives of those he loves the most.
What's a spider, er, kid to do? How do you reconcile what appears to be your calling with maintaining the safety and security of your loved ones? In short, you do it, because you realize there are Bigger Things happening than what you see.
You're not right.
In the above picture, there are Bigger Things happening. It looks like Harry's about to kill Spider-Man, but is he? If he's going to kill him, does he have a legitimate reason? What's his why? See...Bigger. Things.
In the book, Difficult Conversations, (Stone, Patton, & Sheen 1999) state, "...moving away from the truth assumption frees us to shift our purpose from proving we are right to understanding the perceptions, interpretations, and values of both sides." In other words, from your perspective you have the things that you know that you know that you know, that you're right about.
Except for one thing: You're not right.
In understanding Bigger Things, you must come to know and accept that seldom is it ever just about getting the facts right. Here's what I'm saying. No matter what your eyes see and your ears hear, there are Bigger Things going on in and with the conversation you're having with your loved one, coworker, clerk, service person, etc.
...there are Bigger Things happening than what you see.
There are Bigger Things going on as to why you hate your job. As to why you don't get along with that person. As to why you continue to listen to that stuff, those things, and them folk, even though they continually hurt you. As to why you've stopped chasing your dreams. As to why you stopped believing in yourself.
Bigger Things are the reason why you must get understanding. Bigger Things are the reason why you need to listen more. Bigger Things are the reason why you need to be more empathetic. So the next time it's required of you to assess a situation, take stock of the Bigger Things. Aunt May would be proud.